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    Ms Christine Andrew

    I am a seventy-year old woman, living alone. I have white hair (obviously!) and walk with a stick, due to arthritis. Despite this I manage to get around quite well. A few days ago, I went into town on the bus to do a little supermarket shopping. Outside the supermarket, I sat at the bus stop for a few minutes to get my breath. I was sitting alongside a young mum, of perhaps thirty-years old together with her young son who looked to be about five. Suddenly, and without any provocation whatever, she said to me, “Why don’t you hurry up and die and make room for somebody else!” I was shocked and flabbergasted, as were other people other around to judge from their faces. I naturally said, “What did you say?” She replied, “You heard me”. However, when I pressed her she repeated what she had originally said.
    I managed to hold it together, did my shopping and returned home on the bus. Once inside my own front door, I just broke down.
    In a strange way, it’s a relief to know that I am not alone in being the only one to be on the receiving end of this kind of behaviour. However, it does make me wonder what kind of society we are living in.
    I am also finding that, as I become older, I am sometimes seen as a “soft target” by local yobs. It has got to the point where, although my life could be made a lot easier if I had a mobility scooter, I have not yet purchased one because I am certain that, if I did so, it would almost certainly be vandalised pretty quickly.
    I do feel that this “ageist abuse” needs to be brought to public notice. We, quite rightly, no longer tolerate racist abuse; but it seems that elderly victims of abuse are left to deal with the problem on their own – when they are physically vulnerable and unable to fight back. (Not that I want a fight – just to be able to live my remaining years in peace.)
    This anti-social behaviour needs to be brought to public attention and stopped.

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    Dear Madam

    We are truly sorry to learn of your negative experience and how it has impacted you.
    Sadly it is not uncommon for unprovoked verbal remarks to be made to the elder generation.
    This probably stems from ignorance / lack of education and respect which then leads to some people making stereotypical remarks about older people.
    Should this happen again and you feel intimidated / threatened, we would suggest you report it to the local police force. You may also want to call into our helpline if you wish to seek some emotional support 080 8808 8141.


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